Wonderfully Made

“I will praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made.”

-Psalm 139:14

I’ve heard this verse my entire life. It’s like bluegrass music to me; comforting and nostalgic. If you ever got called on in Sunday school to tell a verse this was your go-to.  It was simple. People would say, “If you’re ever feeling down about yourself go to the verse about being wonderfully made.” It’s one of those “come right out and say it” types that, not only throws in a lot of truth, but words it in a way that anyone can understand. It’s uplifting, honest, and well-known, and that is why it so loved. This verse is so good, so easy, that it can sometimes begin to lose its meaning.

I’ll admit it… I’ve been having one of those moments when I don’t feel like I quite measure up. Negativity has taken its toll on me and I’ve been hearing myself say, “I’m too ‘this’ or I’m too ‘that’ for ‘this’ or ‘this’ to work out.” Not only has “what if” become a big part of my vocabulary, but my reactions have shown me how much I have been questioning myself. We all pray for confidence through Christ, but to really live that way is tough.

My mama told me that sometimes all it takes to see yourself in a different light is to look through a bigger perspective. So let’s get up on that mountain and peer down at the world. What do you see? Now really look, and let’s be rational. By this point in our conversation I am usually embarrassed and fumbling my words. The thing is a lot of the stuff I worry about is really nothing. That irritation that has been bugging me or disappointing me or making me unsure is trivial compared to life as a whole. My life should consist of so much more than my tiny bubble. I should have a heart that sees needs, not wants. Truthfully, the secret to seeing yourself as fearfully and wonderfully made is not necessarily seeing yourself at all. It’s seeing God’s work in you. Look at all He has accomplished through you and all He will accomplish. You are much more than externally pretty. You are internally and eternally beautiful in the eyes of your Creator and all who see Him in you. And if you’re willing, He has so much planned for you. Don’t let the world and its distractions get in your way.

We all want to feel like we are pretty, and that’s normal, but we can’t let it consume us. So when those times of uncertainty come the best way to reassure yourself is to open up your Bible, read, and think about how much He must love you to write a book just for you. Wow, you must really be “wonderfully made” ;).

Life-Changing

       Sometimes no matter how hard you look, you still can't see the sadness in a person's eyes. You talk to them every day, learn about their hopes and dreams for the future. You know someone's favorite color, their favorite food, their birthday, and you think you know everything about them.You might even call them your best friend. But what can you really say about them? I was reminded of this last night when I was lying in bed and looking at Facebook. As I was catching up on all the latest news in social media world, I came upon a picture of a girl holding her Sweet 16 cake. She was smiling, and if I knew her I'm sure we would probably be good friends. But right as I was about to scroll down, I accidentally clicked on the tab that says "Continue Reading." And that's exactly what I did. As it turns out, this girl is currently missing from home. She has been struggling with both physical illness and depression, and she ran away to cope with her feelings. While I'm not going to share her name for privacy reasons, I will say that she is very missed by the people who love her. As I looked at her picture again, I saw something I didn't see before. I saw anguish, desperation, disappointment. I saw a young girl trying to keep it all together when everything in her wanted to fall apart. My first thought was to pray for her, but as I did I felt a sense of conviction. Without the context clues, I would have had no idea what the picture represented. I wouldn't have seen the sadness in her eyes, or felt the urgency of her loved ones to bring her home. I would have just ignored her and moved on about my business, mindlessly looking at things that would take away all my attention. All too often I do this in the real world. I only glance at people like I'm looking at pictures, and when I see a happy face I go off on my merry way, rarely stopping to wonder what's on the inside. Because of this, I miss out on God-given opportunities to impact the lives of others. I am fully capable of using the joy that God has placed in my heart to lift up someone who's feeling low. He has given me eyes to see others' needs and an ability to carry out their solutions. But instead of using my discernment to probe the full situation, I'm just barely scratching the surface.

     1 John 3:17 says, "But if anyone has the world's goods and sees his brother in need, yet closes his heart against him, how does God's love abide in him?" This verse is talking about needs in a physical sense, such as food, shelter, and clothing. But the same is true when talking about spiritual needs. How are we to prove to a world of unbelievers that God's love abides in us when we don't seem to have the time to even ask them about their day? How can we expect them to want a personal relationship with Jesus when they think we don't want a personal relationship with them? We as Christians are God's representatives here on Earth. Unbelievers won't talk to a God whom they think doesn't exist, but they will talk to a person who's standing right in front of them. In the way that we talk and the way that we treat others, we are the mirror that reflects the image of Christ. And if they think we don't care about them, then they'll think God doesn't care about them. It's not always easy, but we must try to see the pain of others and to do something about it. We must ask God to show us what He wants us to see in the hearts of those around us. Those moments when we completely empathize with someone else's struggles can be earth-shattering. We feel the weight of their doubts and insecurities on our shoulders, and the aching heart that comes with earnestly praying for another person isn't fun or enjoyable. But it is life-changing in more ways than one. It changes our attitudes toward Christ as we think of the irrepressible agony He felt for us on the cross. It changes our view of ourselves as we put the needs of others at the forefront of our lives. And it changes the lives of others as we give them the saving hope of a future in Heaven. So let us work together to reflect the love and the light of Jesus. Let us show compassion, and friendship, and mercy, even when we don't understand it. Let us be life-changing.

Wanna Hear A Secret?

    Wanna hear a secret? People think I'm ALWAYS happy. If you know me, you probably think this doesn't sound much like a secret. You may even be one of the many people who have asked why I'm always smiling, why I'm always so excited about everything. Now most of the time when people ask me these questions, I just shrug and laugh, true to my "bubbly" personality. Then I explain that I'm not always happy, that sometimes I have days when I'm not happy at all, and I can tell that most of the time you don't believe me. "If you're not always happy, then why are you always in such a good mood?" you may be wondering. Or maybe, "Didn't I just see you humming and skipping down the hall?" Now normally, I can't completely explain my happiness in a way that makes sense. One side effect of this personality that God gave me is that--besides the fact that I talk  too fast for most people to comprehend--I can't always focus on expressing my deepest thoughts and feelings when I'm speaking to others. But here in this post, this outlet where I don't have to worry about getting distracted and losing my train of thought, I'm going to tell you everything I know about living with a positive mindset.


  
   Ok, so the first and most important thing to know is this: it is humanly impossible to be happy and positive at all times. That's right; no one can claim to always have everything together. As much as we hate to admit it, the sin and the stress of living in this broken world is going to get us down on a daily basis. We're going to be impatient, or irritated, or just downright angry with someone or something at least once a day, and chances are each one of us is going to be the thing that irritates someone else (just ask my twin sister how she feels about me sometimes!). That's because we humans have this instinct of self-entitlement that seems to rear its ugly head at the worst possible moments. Whether we realize it or not, deep down inside of us there's this little feeling that everyone owes us something, and when they don't deliver, we tend to think that it's all their fault. I honestly can't tell you how many times I've thought to myself, "This person ignoring me made me really mad," or, "These plans falling through has just ruined my day." Instead of trying to find the logical reason behind frustrating situations, I more often than not just decide to blame the first person or thing I can find. But I find that I am happiest when I strive to live with the attitude that no one owes me anything. That way, when someone does do something nice for me, I can be even more happy and pleasantly surprised.


   Before I go on, let me make it clear that as much as I try to convince myself not to be self-entitled, I often (as in multiple times a day) fall short of this goal. So my next tip will be something to do when you're already upset. (If you've read my last post, you know that I have experience in this field.) As a hormonal teenage girl, I have to say that if you ask me if I've cried on any given day, there's a 50/50 chance that the answer is yes. Lack of confidence, fear of the future, and just being a dramatic person in general pushes me to my breaking point more often than I'd like to admit. But I have a tried and true trick that always makes me feel better soon. It's really nothing ground-breaking, but I think it's something that a lot of us, myself included, tend to forget. If you're having a bad day, try to find a way to make someone else's day better. For instance, if you're doubting yourself, go out of your way to encourage a friend who is having similar feelings. The burst of happiness that comes with helping someone in need will at least temporarily chase your blues away.
 
   God gave us the ability to encourage each other so that we can build each other up and grow together in Him. Which brings me to my final point: the only way to find true happiness is to have the true joy found only in the love of Christ. James 1:2-3 says, "Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness." This proves that when we have salvation, even the hard times in life are times of joy because God is strengthening us in our faith. And one day, He will bring us all Home to a place of eternal joy, where everyone will truly be "happy all the time." Can I get a "Hallelujah!"? We are children of the God who saves, and when we believe on Him we are secure in our future because nothing and no one can take away our joy! If you haven't already, ask Him into your heart right now, and you'll be given the priceless joy of the King of Kings. Go to Him, because the secret of everlasting joy is only His to share.